crush of the month: benny blanco

because securely attached is the new sexy

Apr 04, 2025

Welcome to Crush of the Month Club, where I spotlight the famous men who are unexpectedly stealing our attention (or maybe just mine!). Maybe it’s their charm, their talent, their confidence — or maybe it’s just good hair, and BDE. Either way, this is a space to appreciate the crushes we didn’t see coming (or the ones we did).

It’s pretty obvious why Benny Blanco is taking the Crush of the Month crown in April—his relationship with Selena Gomez is *goals.* We’ve seen glimpses of their love before, but recently, with their music collabs and interviews (especially that Jay Shetty podcast moment), the world has fully caught on: Benny is the guy.

Why? Because he’s secure, emotionally available, and completely in tune with who Selena is. He hypes her up, makes her feel safe, and doesn’t play games—he just shows up. What a concept! And doing that, my friends, is hot.

And listen, I’m not here to talk about his looks. The tired “but how did he get her?” narrative? That’s gross, and, honestly, really immature. Attraction is about connection, confidence, and character—things Benny has in spades. He’s proof that true chemistry isn’t about being conventionally attractive; it’s about how someone makes you feel. And Benny makes Selena feel loved, seen, and supported. What’s sexier than that?

Alright, let’s break this (short) king down.

Name: Benny Blanco (born Benjamin Joseph Levin, but let’s be real, “Benny Blanco” just hits)

Age: 37

Astrological Sign: Pisces

Location: Splitting time between NYC & LA (and wherever Selena is, let’s be honest)

Occupation: Producer, songwriter, record label boss—basically, hitmaker extraordinaire. If you’ve ever danced, cried, or screamed along to a pop song in your life, odds are Benny had something to do with it.

Height: 5’9” (and I bet he doesn’t lie about it either)

Bio: If you’re not in the music biz, you might not have known Benny until he started dating Selena—but the man has been running the charts for over a decade. He’s written and produced some of the biggest songs of our time: Diamonds (Rihanna), Teenage Dream & California Gurls (Katy Perry), Circus (Britney Spears), Tik Tok (Kesha), Moves Like Jagger & Payphone (Maroon 5)… the list goes on. If you've ever stepped foot in a club, turned on a radio, or stood in line at CVS, you’ve heard his work. And yeah, he’s already been presented an award from the Songwriters Hall of Fame. No big deal.

Hobbies & Interests:
- Music, obviously (the man lives and breathes it)
- Cooking—he’s obsessed, and, according to Selena, he’s good
- Going to therapy
- Making people laugh—he doesn’t take himself too seriously, which is refreshing

Potential Red Flags:
- Won’t fly. So if you’re dreaming of spontaneous international getaways, that’s a convo. (he takes a ship to Europe and drives to NYC!)
- May casually write a song about you that the whole world sings along to. (Honestly, not the worst problem.)

- Pisces man. IYKYK.

What He’s Looking For: Nothing, because he’s already found Selena, and we are fully manifesting wedding bells.

Why He’s Our Crush of the Month: Benny Blanco is the blueprint for a secure, communicative, emotionally available man. He doesn’t just *love* Selena—he actively supports her, hypes her up, and makes sure she *feels* that love every day. He’s confident, successful, and entirely unthreatened by her success (which, FYI, is the ultimate green flag).
And if this whole Benny-Selena thing has taught us anything, it’s that women aren’t out here prioritizing superficial standards. What we actually want? Safety. Consistency. Trust. A partner who shows up and makes life better. And that’s exactly what Benny does.So yeah, find yourself a Benny Blanco. Or at least, someone who treats you the way Benny treats Selena. Because that? That’s the real flex.

Would you swipe right?

f Benny presented himself to be who he is on his profile, in all of his golden retriever/secure masculine energy, I would swipe right! If dating has taught me anything…it’s more about connection and communication than knee-jerk reactions. Because those knee jerk reactions are often our patterns keeping us stuck in dating dynamics that we don’t want anymore!

So, yes! I am here for Benny! What do you think? Leave me a comment below!

Thanks for being here!

Love, Brie xox

P.S. Do you have any ideas for a new crush of the month? Let me know!