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Destiny's avatar

SO REAL! I've been saying this for the longest! Obsession is not a trait you want in a person. I feel like when people say they want someone obsessed, they want someone who is doting (even tho obsession and doting behavior are not the same.) Having someone be obsessed with you is suffocating. My ex was extremely co-dependent on me which drained me a lot and even when we broke up, they were calling me off unknown numbers, dming me off fake pages, EMAILING ME like that shit is scary and unsettling. I feel like another reason this whole idea of wanting someone obsessed in a relationship is because of how we all view men in dating right now. If he's not "obsessed," they think he doesn't like them. I want a man who is doting but also has healthy boundaries and doesn't make me feel suffocated. We have to get rid of these toxic dating norms and stop normalizing it

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Brianne Hogan's avatar

Agreed. Healthy and mature relationships is where it's at.

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Michel's avatar

Obsession is a neurotic 'deviation' which doesn't allow the uniqueness of each of them to bloom. It's suffocating.

The risk is that it will be followed by other deviations like jealousy and even locking someone up.

There needs to be a balance. Obsession is like a cancer: it doesn't allow freedom to be yourself. Happiness is only in mutual understanding, balance, freedom,...

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seamus gilkey's avatar

*reminds self to tryta chill a little

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