OK, maybe not exactly new. But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel…different.
Let’s back up.
Back in January, I planned to get my regular bang trim. And then I sent my hair stylist this text:
Yes, it’s true. I changed my hair — my long hair that I’ve been rocking for almost 10 years straight — because of astrology.
If you know me, this isn’t rather shocking. And if you knew the shit show that Capricorns have been enduring for the last 15 years, this definitely wouldn’t be shocking either.
But, regardless, it felt right. It felt like I HAD to cut my hair because I was ushering in a new period of life. I mean women do this all the time. It’s text book. Break up with a guy? Cut your hair. Need a change in your life? Get bangs.
I wrote about this back in 2014 for the women’s blog She Does The City. In the essay, I shared how my hair has undergone a number of changes including from going blonde in high school to dying it black after crushing on Angelina Jolie in “Salt” to getting a perm when I was 12 years old (to this day I swear I’m the only person who’s gotten a perm under the age of 60).
Anyway. As my life dictates, when I change my hair, I’m changing my life.
So your girl cut her hair.
And I have to say…I’m loving this new short hair personality. I don’t know what’s in the air — or what I was actually intuiting about the direction I needed to move my life into — but since I went short, my energy went bigger.
I feel more free yet more grounded. Softer yet stronger. Calmer but bold. Feminine and masculine. Direct and receptive. Confident and detached.
Here’s what’s happened since I cut my hair:
Asked out a guy and texted him first. #shorthairmademedoit
The “best friend” who decided to ditch our friendship of 25 years without even a conversation? I shrugged it off. Wished him well. Blessed his heart and our memories, and went to sleep soundly. #shorthairmademedoit
Communicated to friends about my boundaries and was not afraid of conflict or showing my vulnerability. #shorthairmademedoit
Quit a job that was no longer making me happy. #shorthairmademedoit
Prioritized new connections while also prioritizing me time. #shorthairmademedoit
Threw out clothes that felt juvenile and “cheap” and revamped my wardrobe that felt mature and luxe. #shorthairmademedoit
Hired my first money coach to get my finances clear #shorthairmademedoit
Started a second book proposal and finished a synopsis within 3 weeks #shorthairmademedoit
Planned a party to the strip club #shorthairmademdoit
More importantly, I entered the era where Brianne really doesn’t give a fuck.
Actually, let me distill that down further. It’s not that I don’t give a fuck because I think everyone should give a fuck about their own life! I think it’s more so that I don’t give a fuck about the things that don’t inspire me, motivate me, love me, or nourish me.
And for me, right here, in this moment, that means less resistance, and more action. Releasing the things/experiences/people that are no longer in alignment with the vision I want to create, and taking action towards the things/experiences/people I want in my life. And action comes from intention and my intention right now is to LOVE ME MORE THAN ALL THE FUCKS.
Honestly, I don’t know what it is but I really do feel like I’m walking around differently, embodying a woman who truly loves and prioritizes herself. I know it might sound a little silly, but I think this haircut has helped me return to myself in a way I haven’t felt before. It’s like I needed to cut off 15 years of old shit (old beliefs and patterns and ways of seeing myself and interacting with the world) so I could reappear as someone new…rather, the me who was probably there all along.
Because I know that I’m a good time and I want a good time in this life, and if you’re not it, YOU’RE NOT IT. thank u, next.
Gosh, is this how short kings typically feel? If so, then…#praise.
Anyway. I’m not recommending for everyone to cut their hair.
But what I am saying, especially as we exit this eclipse season, which is typically a time for growth and beginnings that come from endings, if there is something you need to do in order to feel like the person who will help you get to your next level…
Do it.
Cut the hair.
Don’t say I didn’t warn you, though. Just last week I asked my hair stylist to cut my hair even shorter last week!
LOOK OUT WORLD!
Thanks for being here!
Love, Brie